I just recently started working on a book titled “The Roger’s Concept of Incongruence” and I feel like there is a lot of truth to the concept of incongruence. It has helped me think more clearly about things and I’d like to share it with you.
Incongruence is a term used to describe an action that goes against our expectations or the way our brains work. For example, a person who decides to go on a date with you is incongruent. If you know what you want, you can simply accept your partner because you may not even have noticed the incongruence.
A good example of incongruence is the situation in which you, a man, are having an argument with your girlfriend. You are aware of your girlfriend’s intentions, but you are also unaware of how incongruent it is for her to be having an argument with you.
We’re all incongruent in our own ways, so it’s no surprise that there are times when our brains feel like they’re being pulled in opposite directions. Just being in the same room with someone can feel like a contradiction because you can’t quite be sure that they understand the “I” in “I’m having my arguments with my girlfriend”.
We all feel like this right from the get-go. It happens to everyone at one point or another, and it’s always the cause of a fight. The problem arises when the person you’re arguing with is not aware that you’re arguing with them. They might think you’re arguing about something else, but this doesn’t mean you’re arguing about something else that they also aren’t aware of.
For example, you can go to a restaurant and find a bunch of people all watching the same movie together. The argument will start about who is the best actor in the film. When you look at them each other, you know that theyre watching the same film, but they dont realize it. They might be like, “I dunno maybe i should watch the movie with her.
It’s true, you can argue about movies you dont even know are watching, but its also true that if you argue about everything you dont know theyre watching you might just end up arguing about some other thing that you dont know theyre watching you. That is why the saying “we dont know what is going on, but we know what is coming” is so true, in fact it is a way to escape the real world.
That is the way to think about the concept of incongruence. In fact, it was probably the first thing that the film makers thought of when they were trying to make us think about the idea of incongruence. There is a reason that in the real world we dont often have a choice of what to be doing, but in the movie they have to make us choose.
People may think we are free to choose what to do, but in fact we are forced to choose. In the real world, we have to choose between doing something and not doing something. But in the movie we dont have that choice. We are forced to choose. We are forced in the real world to choose between doing something and not doing something so that we can have our own life.
In the movie we have no choice in the matter. It is our choice whether we stay or leave because this is our life. In the movie, we have to choose either stay and live or leave and live with the consequences of our decision. In the real world, we have to decide whether we want to be forced into the life they are forcing us into.